Appreciation in Relationships (AIR) Scale

For development and validation details, see “To Have and To Hold: Gratitude Promotes Relationship Maintenance in Intimate Bonds” (Gordon et al., 2012).

Items are scored on a 7-point scale from “Strongly disagree” to “Strongly agree.”

Appreciative subscale

1. I tell my partner often that s/he is the best.
2. I often tell my partner how much I appreciate her/him.
3. At times I take my partner for granted. (R)
4. I appreciate my partner.
5. Sometimes I don’t really acknowledge or treat my partner like s/he is someone special. (R)
6. I make sure my partner feels appreciated.
7. My partner sometimes says that I fail to notice the nice things that s/he does for me. (R)
8. I acknowledge the things that my partner does for me, even the really small things.
9. I am sometimes struck with a sense of awe and wonder when I think about my partner being in my life.

Appreciated subscale

Appreciated subscale

10. My partner makes sure I feel appreciated.
11. When I am with my partner, sometimes s/he will look at me excitedly and tell me how much s/he appreciates me.
12. My partner often tells me the things that s/he really likes about me.
13. At times my partner takes me for granted. (R)
14. My partner often expresses her/his thanks when I do something nice, even if it’s really small.
15. My partner doesn’t notice when I do nice things for her/him. (R)
16. My partner makes me feel special^a.